Security - Factor #1: Routine

While love is the highest of emotional needs, I believe security runs a close second. To fulfill this need, three factors must be satisfied. The first is routine, which can be defined as a regular, unvarying procedure. In our relationships, routine helps to bring order to our life. When we experience a healthy balance of order, we are able to trust to greater degrees. When we trust, we feel it is safer to be authentic—to be real. We need to sense that those we are in relationship with are being authentic with us as well. Routine helps to satisfy this need. For instance, if our actions remain consistent with our commitments, it will become routine for others to trust that we are genuine in our words. If I routinely arrive on time and prepared for meetings, my actions prove I am reliable and worthy of other people’s trust. But if I routinely arrive late and unprepared, my actions prove I am unreliable. In the beginning, Adam and Eve were capable of complete authenticity. They not only knew their purpose within God’s creation, but they were fully secure and satisfied in their roles. Selfless in their thoughts and actions, they lived out God’s character by routinely being loving, joyous, and peaceful. Because these qualities were routine, they fully trusted the Father and one another. 

Factors two and three to follow in separate posts this week.